Why I Created a Series for Adoptees with ADHD

There’s something I’ve noticed again and again in the work I do.

Conversations that sound different on the surface… but underneath, carry very similar themes.

Feeling things deeply.

Questioning reactions.

Struggling to make sense of emotions that seem bigger than expected.

And often, a quiet thought in the background:

“Why am I like this?”

For adoptees, there is already a unique emotional landscape.

Even in loving families, adoption begins with separation.

And that early experience can shape how safe a connection feels, how relationships are experienced, and how sensitive someone may become to changes in closeness or distance.

Many adoptees describe feeling highly attuned to relationships.
Noticing subtle shifts.

Picking up on tone, mood, or energy.

Trying to make sense of it all.

When ADHD is also part of the picture, this can make things feel even more intense.

Because ADHD isn’t just about focus or organisation.

It also affects emotional regulation, sensitivity, and the way experiences are processed.

So what I began to notice was this overlap:

• Strong emotional responses

• Difficulty regulating those emotions

• Sensitivity to rejection or disconnection

• Questions around identity, belonging, and self-worth

Not as separate issues.

But as interconnected parts of the same experience.

Why I created this series

I didn’t create this as one long, overwhelming course.

I’ve created it as a series of shorter, focused trainings, each one exploring a different part of this experience.

Because these patterns kept showing up.

And they deserved more space, more understanding, and more clarity.

The first two parts of the series are available now:

• Rejection Sensitivity, RSD & Attachment

• Emotional Regulation & Executive Function

The rest of the series is being released over the next few days.

Across the series, I explore areas including:

• Identity, self-esteem and sense of belonging

• Emotional well-being and the need for validation and support

• Stigma and misunderstanding

You might recognise yourself in one of these areas.

Or in all of them.

There’s no right place to start.

This isn’t about labelling or pathologising.

It’s about understanding.

About being able to look at your experiences and think:

“Oh… that makes sense.”

If you’re an adoptee with ADHD, and you’ve ever felt like your reactions are too much, too intense, or difficult to explain…

You’re not alone.

And you’re not imagining it.

If you’d like to explore this further, you can start with the available parts of the series here:

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