What Does An ADHD Meltdown Look Like?

You're not imagining it, and no, it's not a tantrum. But what is it, exactly?

You have probably lived through one. Maybe more than you would like to count. The screaming that seems to come from nowhere. The door slamming. The tears that will not stop. The frozen silence that feels just as frightening. Or perhaps it is your own reaction afterwards, the guilt, the exhaustion, the wondering what you did wrong.

If you are parenting a child with ADHD, meltdowns are almost certainly part of your world. But here is what so many parents tell me: no one ever explained what was actually happening.

An ADHD meltdown is not a behaviour choice. It is not manipulation, and it is not bad parenting. It is what happens when a dysregulated nervous system reaches its absolute limit and tips over the edge.

But understanding what a meltdown looks like is only the beginning. Because there are actually several different ways they can show up, and they do not always look the way we expect. Some are loud and explosive. Some are quiet and withdrawn. Some look like rage, and some look like your child has simply disappeared inside themselves.

In Week 2 of my group coaching programme, we look closely at:

• Why the ADHD brain is wired for emotional flooding, and why willpower will not fix it

• The difference between a meltdown, a tantrum, and a shutdown

• What is happening in your child's body before, during, and after

• And what is happening in yours

That last point isn’t talked about enough. When your child is dysregulated, it is almost impossible not to become dysregulated yourself. Your own nervous system is responding. Your own history, your own exhaustion, your own worry about getting it right, it is all there in the room with you.

Emotional regulation during an ADHD meltdown is not just about your child. It is about you, too.

If you would like to explore all of this properly and find out what you can actually do in these moments, this is exactly the kind of thing we work through together in the programme.

Early-bird offer ends Sunday, 17th May at 23:45

Want to understand meltdowns and feel less alone in them? Join the group coaching programme and get the full picture: what is happening, why it happens, and how to navigate it without losing yourself in the process. Early-bird pricing is available for two more days only.

You can find out more here:

https://www.petraearnshawcoaching.co.uk/group-coaching-order-form

Do you have questions before you decide? Feel free to get in touch. I would love to chat:

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